I've read in some aboriginal cultures there's a rite of passage for a boy into manhood where he'll go by himself into the wilderness and spend the night alone there (o a couple of days).
I've thought a fair equivalent, in an urban unholy setting as here, is for a boy to start riding the bus by himself.
My big boy has just begun, both secondary school and using public transportation by himself.
Big days of adjustment, turmoil and intense emotions.
For the mom I mean ;-D
We did some training riding the bus together 8 times. After the first and second time, I told T. to just go as if I weren't there. He would get to the bus stop, get on, purchase fare, ride and get off by himself (and I was watching from a distance hiding behind trees and signs :-D). We pretended we didn't know each other.
At some point it was evident he could do it completely by himself and so he has been doing for the las few days.
It's big to see your little birdie starting to fly. After processing and digesting for a while, I think I'm finally setting into excitement and joy for him. Seeing how well he's doing, and wishing for him many wonderful and meaningful adventures gaining more and more self confidence and love for life.
A blessing is in order, and T, if one day you read this, keep in mind that this blessing for you is valid from now and forever. No expiration date. Always blessings upon your head. The world is your oyster! Just need to get on that bus!
A Blessing for a little traveller
I bless you on your first bus ride solo
And I bless you on the many travels and adventures that will follow
May you always be safe
May you always be protected
May you always find green lights and open doors
And when a door is open
May you notice and step in with joy
And when a door is closed
may you find a way around
There's always a way around if you're creative and flexible enough
May you find the path to the centre of your heart
where your throne is waiting
That's the point of the journey
Of every journey
I know you will